Not all women are out there playing mind games to get upper hand over their partner, but any women who have a deep desire to dominate may do so. But even then they do so subtly, you hardly notice it. By the time you do they already have charge over the narrative and the dynamics. Here are 15 ways women may use control tactics to dominate you.
Guilt-Tripping You For A Life Outside the Relationship
These women have an issue with your identity and they want to strip you of it as soon as they can. Every hangout with your friends,every football match you go to, every hobby you pursue individually somehow becomes a point of contention.. Eventually you give up on your life outside the relationship to keep her happy.
Giving You Silent Treatment
Silence can have a healing impact for a healthy relationship but it becomes the opposite when it turns into a weapon to punish you. If she resorts to silent treatment for days or even weeks to get her way with things, she loves her ego above you. She wants to have all the control in the relationship.
Uses Emotional Outbursts To Get The Last Word In Arguments
She may be at fault but admitting her mistakes is so beneath her. When she feels she can’t respectfully argue and is losing the argument she starts yelling, shouting or even crying loudly. She throws a fit to conclude the argument and garner sympathies. This way she holds power over the narrative and your side of the story gets buried beneath her drama.
Score-Keeping
She will maintain a mental scoreboard of all your past mistakes and flaws. Every new fight is reverted back tactfully to your mistakes by her. This causes stalemate and hence deep seated resentment from unresolved issues in the relationship. But she couldn’t care less.
Weaponising Physical Intimacy
Most of such women know exactly how to mount pressure on you to bring you to your knees. She withholds affection when you disagree with her, and she becomes affectionate the moment you give in to her viewpoint or demands. This creates an imbalance in the relationship.
Having The Victim Mentality
When all tactics fail she pulls this move. It always works. At the workplace she’s the most oppressed coworker and employee, in your family the most neglected daughter in law, and as a wife the most overlooked woman. In short, she is the ultimate victim in every story, while she accuses you of being her opponent.
Shaming You For Your Vulnerability
While expecting to be heard and held during emotional moments, she does the exact opposite when it’s your turn to receive the same degree of emotional support. The moment you open up about your feelings she gaslights, dismisses or downright ignores your concerns.
Using Insults Disguised as Humor To Make You Feel Small
She deliberately openly jokes about your ambitions, hobbies, dreams, and even your masculinity. Using jokes with sarcastic undertones to undermine your confidence and mentally dominate you. As your self-esteem gets eroded slowly, it makes you an even easier target for manipulation, which is exactly what she wanted.
Using Threats Of Separation Over Minor Issues
Such women can sense when a man fears losing them. This makes a manipulative woman use threats of divorce and separation to ensure your compliance to her demands. Even a minor inconvenience to her starts to feel intimidating to you as you may be too emotionally weak to see through her manipulation. You fear upsetting her so much, you start to do what she says.
Always Wanting Proof Of Your Loyalty
She needs the reassurance that you are loyal to her time and again. She tests your loyalty through meticulously crafted scenarios, monitoring your social media accounts, snooping in your phone, teasing you to test your patience or simply engaging in benign arguments to check if you still love her.
Comparing You With Other Men To Keep You On Your Toes
She understands your psychology, most such women know every man’s psychology of wanting acknowledgement and appreciation for their role in their partner’s life. This is exactly where a woman who wants to be in control hits you. She brings in comparison unnecessarily with other men around or on social media to make you feel small, incompetent and inferior. This creates a feeling that maybe you are not worthy of anyone’s love and she still settled for you.
Acting Helpless So You Pitch In
She plays dumb sometimes when she needs a favor from you and can’t get you to do it. She will act like she lacks the ability to manage small everyday tasks. Seeing her helpless you jump in to rescue her. This way most such women overburden their partners while they themselves earn ample leisure time to relax.
Twisting The Narrative
These women are master manipulators so they are fully equipped with the wits to twist past narrative to make you question your own memory of the same events. This instills self-doubt in you and over time you start trusting your partner’s judgment. This hands her the entire decision-making power as you stop trusting your own.
Offering You Help Laden With Criticism
Another way for such a woman to break your self-confidence in your abilities is to aim criticisms at you disguised as help. She tells you and ultimately you may start to believe that too, that somehow everything you say and do is wrong as she helps you correct it. For example, something as small as how you dress up may become her choice.
Micromanaging Your Life
These women have the tendency to encroach upon your personal space and boundaries. They will comment on literally everything. Where you go, with whom, when are you coming back, how you dress, what you eat etc. somehow everything is gradually being micromanaged by her. You feel like you have no control over even the smallest decisions of your own life.
Uses Jealousy Under Guise Of Concern
She undeniably compromises your autonomy, she tries to restrict your independence, your behaviors, and even criticize your friends to isolate you from your close circles, all under the guise of protectiveness and care. Without knowing, over time, you find yourself completely cut off from your support system and completely reliant on her.
Final Thoughts
Control isn’t always as obvious as many would assume. Sometimes, a controlling partner’s affection may stealthily overpower your freedom of choice, independence, decision making, connections and autonomy and by the time reality hits you you are already isolated from your identity and support system. Look for patterns if a woman sees respect, trust, communication and autonomy as negotiable boundaries you need to walk away before you fail to recognise your own self.
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