A healthy relationship is nothing else but mutual respect. However, sometimes, a benign teasing or strong opinions escalates into something hostile. If you constantly feel like your wife is a big feminist and upholds a misandrist narrative, then there is an absence of emotional safety which emotionally drains from your relationship. If your partner insults you simply because you are a man, then perhaps she espouses misandrist tendencies within her. Read on
Always Calls All Men Are Trash
Everyone vents once in a while, but if such statements are a norm then perhaps it is more than mere frustration but a deep rooted hatred. This generalization shows she considers all men inclusive of you as flawed.
Dismisses Your Personal Struggles as “Male Privilege”
If you open up she immediately dismisses your struggles, and invalidates your emotions. She in fact quickly reminds you that you still have the “male privilege”. Healthy spouses or partners attentively and empathetically listen to what you have to say instead of dismissing your emotional experience.
Assuming Ill-Intentions
She calls you incompetent when you fail to meet her expectations. She quickly accuses you of mansplaining when you disagree or that you’re being controlling when you set your healthy boundaries.
Publicly Insults You
She humiliates you publicly and unapologetically. He fervently engages in mocking all men. She minimizes your pain and makes you regret your vulnerability. But she just doesn’t want to accept it.
Thinking Men Should Always Pay, But Despises Patriarchy
You can’t be selective when you apply rules of equality. She criticizes traditional gender roles but expects you to always pay, protect, and provide.
Apathy for Your Mental Health
She belittles the emotional struggles and pressures you face. Instead of being your support system she constantly tells you to be a man and stop being melodramatic.
She Competes With You At The Cost of Connecting
She doesn’t celebrate your achievements because she silently competes with you. This makes her downplay your success. She also says how women have to face more struggles to reach a certain growth level as compared to men.
Labelling Masculinity Toxic
Somehow your strength is aggression. You try to lead with love she calls you dominating. She equates our self-confidence or leadership with oppression.
She Tests Your Time And Again
She shuts down when an issue arises. She gives you the silent treatment till you finally relent and apologize. She does this to check your loyalty and emotional investment in the relationship, because in her opinion all men are cheaters.
She Boast About “Using” Men
She openly laughs about having taken advantage of gullible men in the past. She exploited them for money and manipulated them for attention. This attitude should be taken seriously.
She Sees You as Replaceable
She makes you feel that you are probably just another one of the men she can easily dispose of when she finds a better man. She proudly says she doesn’t need men. This tactic is used to make you feel lucky to have her in your life.
She Has Double Standards
She might demand loyalty from you but keeps her own options open using you as a backup plan. She gets mad when you set a password on your phone but she is protective of her own phone. Fairness is something she least cares about.
She Shames Your Emotional Experiences
She expresses sarcasm, disgust, or boredom when you share something that’s been bothering you with her. She makes you regret being vulnerable with her by minimising or dismissing your emotional experience.
Final Thoughts
Strong and confident women are liked by men, and not all women are toxic feminists or misandrists. But a woman who constantly brings up gender debates unnecessarily, denigrates men, and is unwilling to give even the man who loves her the benefit of the doubt then she surely is a red flag you must be careful about having as your life partner.
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