There comes a time in your life when you see a woman of your dreams and you secretly wish you could grab her attention. You may start weaving scenarios in your mind as to how to advance with your motive. These thoughts get accompanied by fears of rejection which might create anxiety about your ambitions. So, the most important of all “DOs” is to be yourself, and the “DON’Ts” will decide where your attempts go. Here are some.
Trying Too Hard
While most women love confidence in men, you don’t necessarily have to overdo it. Being yourself and not letting performance anxiety get the better of you is what might work in your best interest. Don’t brag, fabricate stories,etc. A man trying to oversell himself turns a woman off rather than attracting her.
Constantly Scrolling Through Your Phone
Don’t bury your head into your phone when you are in her company. The more attentive you appear the more impressed she gets. Women love men who can offer them undivided attention and time.
Acting Like He’s “Too Cool” To Make An Effort
You may act nonchalant to show you aren’t desperate for her attention but guess what this backfires. You must maintain a balanced approach, as strategic indifference may make you appear like an emotionally immature guy who doesn’t know how to interact with a woman.
Making The Entire Date About Yourself
If you spend the entire date talking about yourself just to introduce her to all aspects of yourself, your achievements, and experiences this makes you seem like someone too full of yourself. But the key is to let her speak and listen carefully as she does. Learn about her hobbies, interests, and ambitions.
Being Too Hasty
Don’t reserve the compliments for the next phase, if you genuinely like something about her let her know but don’t go overboard in praising her. This looks cheesy and pretentious. Throw a flirty but subtle pickup line if it seems appropriate but hold serious discussions for the future.
Not Listening
Women fall for great listeners. A man who can offer a woman his distraction free presence becomes instantly attractive to a woman. So, don’t be a poor listener if you want to leave an impact.
Not Paying Attention To Appearance
The fastest way to fall out of favor with a woman is to show up with an unkempt appearance and poor hygiene habits, like untrimmed nails, unshaved beard, bad breath, etc. So, the first thing you need to do is take care of your hygiene and appearance, dress to impress if you really want to catch her attention.
Trying to Be Too Funny
A woman likes men with a good sense of humor, laughter is in fact a great way to develop an instant connection, But when you make offbeat jokes or get personal or mocking in your tone that is what pisses a woman off. Light playful teasing or joking is enough without trying too hard to be funny, because that would instantly push her away.
Being Too Bitter Or Cold
When a woman joins you for a date the last thing she wants to hear is something negative or boring. So, don’t bring in serious matters as topics of discussion, keep the meeting light and fun. Pessimism would repel her rather than attracting her.
Rushing Towards Physical Intimacy
One way to lose respect fast is to show eagerness towards physical intimacy. The more patient and slow you take things the better impression you leave on a woman. Don’t be impatient and you might have a chance with her.
Being Cheap On The First Interaction
You don’t have to overspend on a first date to prove you’re a good man. You just have to be natural as flaunting your money or accomplishments may make you appear cheap rather than attractive. Be generous but in moderation something you can keep up with in future.
Acting Jealous When She Talks To Someone Else
Bear in mind you aren’t her partner yet, if she gets attention don’t get jealous. As women are often quick to pick up on signs of jealousy and insecurity. Every woman gets interested in men who are open-minded and emotionally secure.
Disrespecting Her Boundaries
If you feel she’s not comfortable with you approaching her, like maintaining physical distance, avoiding eye-contact or being brief in her responses, take that as a sign to pull back. When you show respect for her boundaries she may develop feelings of respect for you naturally.
Talking Badly About Your Ex
Women are always looking for patterns in behavior. If you insult or accuse a woman in front of her, even if she was your ex, a woman you are dating for the first time may see this behavior as unbecoming of a gentleman. This makes you instantly unattractive.
Forgetting To Be Consistent
You may be tempted to make a bold move, throw a grand romantic surprise or book an expensive date, but before you do ask yourself would you be able to continue that in future? Don’t give in to such emotional thoughts for momentary attraction. Be moderate and authentic, as in the long-run it’s the consistency that makes a woman fall for you deeply, truly, madly.
Final Thoughts
Catching her attention is rarely done by a one-off event; rather, it’s the consistency in your efforts that is genuine, warm, and loving in essence. When you show up in your best, smile warmly, listen to her closely, put your phone down to face her, stay respectful and generous she may naturally feel inclined towards you.
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