Some men still internally support the idea of embracing outdated patriarchal practices that favored men more than the women. The paradox? They don’t really say it out loud, they just expect it that way while claiming themselves to be true torchbearers of equal rights and equality-based partnerships. Here are 13 ways men want to have a traditional wife but fall short of delivering the traditional style responsibilities.
They Want Her to Cook, But Won’t Help at Home
Many men want a woman to cook for the family but rarely contribute to household chores. In truth, it’s more convenient than traditional.
They Want Her to Respect Them, But Dismiss Her Opinions
Most men want unconditional support and respect from their wives and partners. But at the same time, they carelessly dismiss her opinion, mock her feelings or even take big shared decisions without consulting her.
They Want Her to Submit, But Refuse to Lead
They expect complete submission and subservience from a woman but fail to take on the leadership and provider role fully. This helps him maintain authority while escaping accountability.
They Want Her to Prioritize Family, But Neglect Their Own
Men want women to manage the immediate family they have created together, as well as all connections with extended family and friends too. This burden disguised as tradition helps him stay free of the emotional obligation to stay present.
They Want Her to Look After Them, But Ignore Her Needs
They want her to take care of his emotional, physical and other everyday needs while he rarely anticipates hers, or even acknowledges them when she voices her legitimate needs and doesn’t nurture her the way she deserves. This imbalance works in his favor so he gives it the name of tradition.
They Want Her Loyalty, But Keep Their Options Open
He demands that a woman stay home and look after everything efficiently and considers it a sign of a woman’s loyalty to her partner. He himself entertains other women or talks frankly with strangers. This isn’t traditional masculinity, it’s clearly hypocrisy.
They Want a Modest Woman, But Judge Her by Her Appearance
They want her to appear modest and simple while at the same time shame her for not looking her best when he comes home. This contradictory behavior damages her self-esteem and self worth.
They Want Her to Make Sacrifices, But Refuse to Compromise
Most men want women to make endless sacrifices for the sake of the relationship or marriage or kids, while in return they rarely display the same degree of flexibility at making essential compromises.
They Want Her to Obey, But Won’t Accept Accountability
They expect her to comply with each and every command he makes. He acts like an authority figure at home rather than a partner that feels emotionally safe to share her perspective fearlessly with. And disagreement? He views that as a dealbreaker, he wants a quiet woman not a happy one.
They Want Her to Raise the Children, But Leave Parenting to Her
Men usually leave the entire burden of parenting on the mother. A woman becomes the default parent, she may have her own job, manage meals, house chores, the children’s homework, trips, appointments etc all become her burden to carry. She lives like a single parent while being with a man.
They Want Her to Support Their Dreams, But Dismiss Hers
A woman’s ambitions, career, and personal growth take a backseat the day she enters a marriage with a man who has a regressive mindset. He wants her to give up her career to support his ambitions and growth. While she leaves her dream job behind to care for the home and family, he builds his. It hurts when as time passes he starts to look down upon her and starts to blame her for falling behind in growth.
They Want Her to Stay Attractive, But Stop Making an Effort
Many couples we see have women who look beautiful and well-kept. Many even say their partners pressure them to dress up well and look beautiful for them, while the man himself isn’t willing to leave his comfort zone to look attractive and healthy for their spouse or partner.
They Want Her to Be Emotionally Available, But Stay Emotionally Closed
Men want wives or partners who are their biggest support system and strength in times of distress, but when their partner opens up to them they shut down or become too distracted as they don’t want to make the emotional effort to work on the relationship.
Final Thoughts
Wanting a traditional wife comes with a set of responsibilities. When you expect a woman to behave a certain way you must be willing to step out of their comfort zone, be her emotional anchor, her best friend, a cooperative co-parent, an equal partner, and her safe space, someone who is not there to intimidate her into submission rather walk beside her with love, respect, care and empathy.
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